Sometimes You’ve Got To Step Up

No matter how big the fear, no matter how massive the anxiety, sometimes you just need to ignore it. 

One of my biggest anxiety triggers is getting sick with the flu. When I was younger dehydration and the flu landed me in a 4 or 5 day stay at the hospital. Since then, the fear of getting sick can set off a major panic attack. 

However, one of the things that goes along with a serious relationship? One of you is going to eventually get sick. And the other is going to have to step up and take care of them. Unless, you know, you’re an asshole and make them take care of themselves. 

Love means making choices that are hard. It means sometimes putting someone before yourself, even before your anxiety. For me, that means still giving kisses, holding him when he hurts, and risking getting sick myself. 

All for him. 



It’s Okay

Why is it socially acceptable to stay home and play video games when you’ve gotten a cold, yet when you’re depressed, you’re lazy? 

Feeling a bit under the weather has gotten me thinking about this. I’m even calling myself out on it. When I’m depressed I feel as though I should still be doing things, acting normal. Yet, feeling sick with a cold I’m totally accepting of the fact I need to rest. Why is this?

Symptoms of a cold: fever, runny nose, sore throat, chills, headaches, lack of energy, etc. 

Symptoms of depression: lack of energy, headaches, negative self talk, suicidal thoughts, self harming actions, overwhelming sadness, loss of appetite, feeling numb or no emotion, etc. 

One can kill you, the other, not so much. 

I sit here right now and wonder, why are we so hard on people trying to fight for survival? I’d much rather pretend everything is okay when I have a cold than when I have depression. But, depression isn’t seen as valid. 

If I were to have a physical illness, one that you could see, that might kill me, you wouldn’t expect me to go to work everyday at a minimum wage job. No, you’d expect me to do everything I can to stay alive. Why is it different with depression?

Right now, I can’t handle a job. I don’t know if I will ever be able to again. I don’t know when or how bad my next Depressive Episode will be. But I’m still expected to carry on as if nothing is wrong. 

What kind of fucked up logic is this?


Surviving a Sick Day

Hello, I just wanted to take a quick moment and apologize for the lack of posts over the past couple of weeks.  Thank you all for your patience as I figure out how to incorporate my blog in my life more and more.  I hope to only bring the best content for my readers and I hope you all have an amazing day!

Xoxo, Elizabeth Ashley.


We’ve all woken up like this at one point.  The story behind my morning begins with a terrible night.  After sleeping off the stress, I wake up to find myself sick with some form of a cold/flu.  From that point on it was one of those, one thing after another weekends.  So, this photo describes it all!  But, how do we survive a sick day when all we want to do is lay in bed and tell the world to, you know, fuck off?


Well, start by getting the hell out of bed!  The best outfit to wear when you’re sick is what you’d wear if you were to go take a yoga class.  It makes you feel like you’re about to be productive, but really you’re not going to be doing anything remotely productive.  For me, what I wear benefits my mood in some way.  If I were to have stayed in my pj’s all day, I would have felt even worse.  Sometimes you just need to put on some tight yoga pants that make your ass look good, and enjoy the day.


The one thing that saves me when I am sick is none other than, hot tea!  I put so much honey and sugar in my tea, it makes my soul sweeter.  Also, you’re sick, who cares what your nail polish looks like?  Take the day to sip some tea, not give a damn about make-up or how presentable you look.  Your ass looks good in those yoga pants, what more could a girl need on a sick day?!  Be gentle to yourself, let the world pause while you heal.


Being sick is even better when you happen to get your roommate sick, too!  Now you have someone to do puzzles with!  Enjoy time spent with people who care, let them cook for you, let them comfort you.  I was pleasantly surprised when my roommate decided she’d spend time with me, she knows that makes my heart happy.  I was all prepared to be shut off, to step up and take care of myself, then she made my day!  Always take care of yourself, but if you find yourself in the position of having to let others care for you, let them.  All they want to do is love you!


Now, I know when you’re sick you have no appetite.  I know this because I lost 10lbs while I had a cold.  Don’t let yourself starve!  Now, homemade chicken and dumplings would have probably instantly cured anything wrong with me.  However, when you’re sick you don’t have the energy to make homemade anything!  Canned chicken and dumplings was surprisingly still delicious.  The only soup I will admit to loving is this, thanks to my year spent in the south.  Eat your comfort food, enjoy the warm soup, love the hot tea.  Take a day to step back and take care of yourself.  Be kind to you, you need the love.